The Four agreements

The Four agreements


This book came to me, entirely via synchronicity. Suddenly everything I was seeing, reading online & conversations I was having, came around to this book. So not being one to fight the signs presented by the universe,  I went on Amazon with a quickness & purchased my copy. The book was just so effortless to read & was a complete page turner (It’s also a short read so that helps). You know when something just resonates with your spirit & you end up answering back at the book like you’re in church!…Yeah that happened.

Since then I have bought a further two copies for friends & will continue to recommend this as essential reading when you need that little spirit tune up. I can totally see myself revisiting this jewel, when I need it.

I was drawn to this book knowing it was drawing upon ancient wisdom from the toltec people of Mexico. My interest in South American sprituality stems from having travelled to Brazil many times to sing, but more so since my trip to Peru, to experience drinking  Ayahuasca with a shaman a few years back. (I’ll do a post about that trip actually). However you don’t have to be particularly religious or curious to reap rewards from this book.


My interest in ancient south american spirituality started when I travelled to Iquitos, Peru with my best friend (this is us, at the retreat)


The Four Agreements are:

1. Be Impeccable with your Word

Speak with integrity. Say only what you mean. Avoid using the Word to speak against yourself or to gossip about others. Use the power of your Word in the direction of truth and love.

2. Don’t Take Anything Personally
Nothing others do is because of you. What others say and do is a projection of their own reality, their own dream. When you are immune to the opinions and actions of others, you won’t be the victim of needless suffering.

3. Don’t Make Assumptions
Find the courage to ask questions and to express what you really want. Communicate with others as clearly as you can to avoid misunderstandings, sadness and drama. With just this one agreement, you can completely transform your life.

4. Always Do Your Best                                                                                                                                  Your best is going to change from moment to moment; it will be different when you are healthy as opposed to sick. Under any circumstance, simply do your best, and you will avoid self-judgment, self-abuse, and regret.

I Recommend it

Not to over sell it, but I meditated after finishing it & was one of the best ones i’d had in ages. You know the saying hurt people hurt people…Well what I got a sense of peace from, was Don Miguel Ruiz’s ability to remind our souls that we don’t have to be in agreement with the abuse of ourselves, by ourselves or by others. I wholeheartedly recommend this book, & if you do pick it up, drop a comment & let me know your thoughts.

Happy Construction

A x 💋


  1. May 19, 2017 / 17:10

    This is one of my favorite books, EVER! It’s one of those reads that you often have to revisit if you ever fall off the wagon. Great recommendation!

  2. May 20, 2017 / 06:42

    just those 4 things are powerful but oh so hard to do! I think I have heard of this book. Ill check it out. I haven’t been to South America yet but hopefully soon!

    • Ayak
      May 26, 2017 / 14:37

      You won’t regret it. Thanks for stopping by!

  3. May 20, 2017 / 08:45

    I haven’t read it, but it sounds like something l would enjoy, so will check it out. I struggle with number 2 sometimes 😉

    • Ayak
      May 26, 2017 / 14:39

      I feel you. I’m super sensitive to, but Im learning to use it only to inform my art. Everything else is a waste.

  4. May 20, 2017 / 13:41

    This sounds like the perfect pick me up. I definitely have those days when my spirit needs a tuneup.

    • Ayak
      May 26, 2017 / 14:40

      I literally had tears in eyes from the introduction. I think its one of those books you can always refer to. Hope you love it!

  5. Jay Colby
    May 20, 2017 / 23:47

    This sounds like a great book. These are some very powerful affirmations that we all can have.

    • Ayak
      May 26, 2017 / 14:40

      I can’t recommend it enough!

  6. May 21, 2017 / 15:04

    This is the first I’m hearing of this book. I think that the tips are practical and anyone can apply them to their own lives.

    • Ayak
      May 26, 2017 / 14:41

      Glad to be the one to introduce you. Let me know if you get a chance to read it! Thanks for your comment x

  7. May 22, 2017 / 01:17

    I have not read the book, but I do agree with the 4 Agreements. Although I find #3 to be a bit challenging, only because we all come to the table with our own unique biases that it takes time to reprogram you mind/thoughts to think differently. Thanks for sharing.

    • Ayak
      May 26, 2017 / 14:43

      I agree but Im really seeing the benefits of reprogramming this habit that no longer serves me. Thank you x

  8. May 22, 2017 / 08:27

    I totally agree with these four points! I find them to be so important the older I get.

  9. Elle (CleverlyChanging)
    May 22, 2017 / 12:28

    An owner of a brand recommended this book to me in 2012. I tried to remember the name of the book, but it alluded me. Once I saw the book title and read your post, it immediately came back to mind. I will be adding this book to my summer reading list.

    • Ayak
      May 26, 2017 / 14:43

      Yes!!! Let me know your thoughts! x

  10. May 22, 2017 / 20:22

    Funny you said synchronicity because I feel like your blog post is doing that for me now. I got this book on my phone and I have yet to finish reading it but now i want to read it and meditate on myself these 4 agreements properly!

    • Ayak
      May 26, 2017 / 14:45

      I love that. Theres so much power in synchronicty when you recognise it. Have a beautiful meditation!

  11. May 23, 2017 / 21:16

    The four agreements are great self-reflecting tools. Sounds like a great read for personal growth.

  12. May 25, 2017 / 14:41

    This is the first time I’m hearing of this book.

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