Thank you so much for your comments on the last blog post.
I thoroughly enjoyed reading through them & getting a perspective regarding the songs title & content. You don’t always get to have such dialogue about the way in which your work is recieved as a songwriter. There’s always the comments section on youtube, but Im not trying to get my feeling’s hurt this early on a wednesday morning, so it’s nice having this forum to exchange with you.
A few things occured to me which never did prior to reading the comments & it’s such a blessing to be able to put it out there & hopefully get some real meaningful & new perspectives on the way people listen to & internalise music. I’ll start with a quick back story of what I do…
THE CREATIVE PROCESS
Generally I tend to write in the studio with an artist/group & producer who will either create a piece of music from scratch or will play a selection of tracks they’ve created prior to our session (studio sessions are when & where we write & record new music).
WHAT I LOOK FOR IN THE MUSIC
What I look for in the track creation process or listening part (before I start writing) is the emotion of the music. What emotion does it evoke? What story can I tell over this music? What does it feel like? Do the chords feel euphoric? Fun? Sexy? or Melancholic?
This is the reason why songs are able to transport us back in time or to a feeling, create moods or shift your energy. If you’re sad & wanna cry, or sad & wanna get happy just throw on your favourite record & bang! Vibe changed. Wanna run for miles at the gym? throw on a work-out playlist. Or when its date night with your significant other you might break out some Jodeci to set the mood.
I really believe music is powerful, we wouldn’t use it to teach children or in places of worship if it wasn’t. My mum told me the only things in life that speak to the soul on a level that cannot be controlled are love & music. I really believe that!
I’ve been a professional musician since 2002, a published writer, writing for other artists since 2008 when I signed to Sony ATV & then later signing with BMG music publishing.
When you write with other artists/writers you have to find an emotion or human experience you share, find melodies & lyrics that articulate that emotion effectively & most importantly honestly. When you’re writing from autobiographical place it’s literally like having a superpower, songwriting is cathartic & you can sometimes unlock your subconscious & work through personal things in a way that people that might not be creatively inclined may not.
I’ve spilled my guts crying whilst writing & pumped my fist in the air with shear joy when I’ve hit a flow & everything you feel & want to say comes out perfectly. At that point you feel like you are channeling directly from God, & it’s glorious.
Then there are other times when nothing comes together, the chords feel disjointed, you can’t find the pocket, you’re overthinking, maybe you don’t have the same vision for the song as your co-writers, the label don’t like it & say they’re looking for ‘something else’ (usually naming the most recent hit record) or sometimes you just have an off day. Heaven forbid, it’s writers block, but it happends.
The most fulfilling part of being a songwriter is when you write something that touches people lives. Theres no better feeling than for someone to have a life defining moment to something you’ve written. Someone told me that their relative requested my song played at their funeral, that hit me hard. Other times it’s not as serious, but if it defines a summer, a wild night or any other memory for someone I’m grateful for my job!
So here goes ….
I really wanted to understand the source of shock at the title of ‘Sex for breakfast’.
Was it the title? Was it that a woman was expressing herself in a way in which society doesn’t always expect? Is it an example of current society? Hyper sexualisation in the entertainment business? Is it generational? Im really intrigued.
I started answering comments back as these questions where coming to me. I referenced Prince’s ‘Sex in the summer’, Marvin Gaye’s ‘sexual healing’ & ‘I wanna sex you up’ by color me bad as songs I heard growing up with Sex in the title. Granted they were sung by men, so does that change the shock value if it’s a woman saying it? Im genuinely intrigued…
Please do let me know your thoughts & opinions on this it would mean alot to me.
Have a happy hump day
A x 💋