Comments on the last post

Comments on the last post

Hi guys,

Thank you so much for your comments on the last blog post.

I thoroughly enjoyed reading through them & getting a perspective regarding the songs title & content. You don’t always get to have such dialogue about the way in which your work is recieved as a songwriter. There’s always the comments section on youtube, but Im not trying to get my feeling’s hurt this early on a wednesday morning, so it’s nice having this forum to exchange with you.

A few things occured to me which never did prior to reading the comments & it’s such a blessing to be able to put it out there & hopefully get some real meaningful & new perspectives on the way people listen to & internalise music. I’ll start with a quick back story of what I do…



The ‘Sex 4 Breakfast’ recording session with K Stewart @ Rollover studios London

Generally I tend to write in the studio with an artist/group & producer who will either create a piece of music from scratch or will play a selection of tracks they’ve created prior to our session (studio sessions are when & where we write & record new music).


What I look for in the track creation process or listening part (before I start writing) is the emotion of the music. What emotion does it evoke? What story can I tell over this music? What does it feel like? Do the chords feel euphoric? Fun? Sexy? or Melancholic?

This is the reason why songs are able to transport us back in time or to a feeling, create moods or shift your energy. If you’re sad & wanna cry, or sad & wanna get happy just throw on your favourite record & bang! Vibe changed. Wanna run for miles at the gym? throw on a work-out  playlist. Or when its date night with your significant other you might break out some Jodeci to set the mood.

I really believe music is powerful, we wouldn’t use it to teach children or in places of worship if it wasn’t. My mum told me the only things in life that speak to the soul on a level that cannot be controlled are love & music. I really believe that!


I’ve been a professional musician since 2002, a published writer, writing for other artists since 2008 when I signed to Sony ATV & then later signing with BMG music publishing.

When you write with other artists/writers you have to find an emotion or human experience you share, find melodies & lyrics that articulate that emotion effectively & most importantly honestly. When you’re writing from autobiographical place it’s literally like having a superpower,  songwriting is cathartic & you can sometimes unlock your subconscious & work through personal things in a way that people that might not be creatively inclined may not.

I’ve spilled my guts crying whilst writing & pumped my fist in the air with shear joy when I’ve hit a flow & everything you feel & want to say comes out perfectly. At that point you feel like you are channeling directly from God, & it’s glorious.

Then there are other times when nothing comes together, the chords feel disjointed, you can’t find the pocket, you’re overthinking, maybe you don’t have the same vision for the song as your co-writers, the label don’t like it & say they’re looking for ‘something else’ (usually naming the most recent hit record) or sometimes you just have an off day. Heaven forbid, it’s writers block, but it happends.


I got to meet, play songs & listen to my all time hero Diane Warren @ realsongs L.A



Working with my other hero Lindy Robbins @ Paramount Recording Studios L.A

The most fulfilling part of being a songwriter is when you write something that touches people lives. Theres no better feeling than for someone to have a life defining moment to something you’ve written. Someone told me that their relative requested my song played at their funeral, that hit me hard. Other times it’s not as serious, but if it defines a summer, a wild night or any other memory for someone I’m grateful for my job!

So here goes ….


I really wanted to understand the source of shock at the title of ‘Sex for breakfast’.

Was it the title? Was it that a woman was expressing herself in a way in which society doesn’t always expect? Is it an example of current society? Hyper sexualisation in the entertainment business? Is it generational? Im really intrigued.

I started answering comments back as these questions where coming to me. I referenced Prince’s ‘Sex in the summer’, Marvin Gaye’s ‘sexual healing’ & ‘I wanna sex you up’ by color me bad as songs I heard growing up with Sex in the title. Granted they were sung by men, so does that change the shock value if it’s a woman saying it? Im genuinely intrigued…

Please do let me know your thoughts & opinions on this it would mean alot to me.

Have a happy hump day

Happy construction!

A x 💋





  1. July 26, 2017 / 21:10

    What an interesting read! I know some singers but no professsional songwriters! I’d love to visit a recording studio too. Looks so interesting!

    • Ayak
      July 28, 2017 / 10:13

      Thank you, if you’re ever in London maybe I can make it happen! x

  2. July 27, 2017 / 00:43

    My husband write and produce too so I love to her about the process. Now I went back to your previous post. With all the current songs in rotation the title actually didn’t offend me. I would think some women could relate. BJ the Chicago has a similar interlude on one of his albums. 🤷🏽‍♀️

    • Ayak
      July 28, 2017 / 10:16

      Oh wow, what kind of music does he write/produce? Have you ever tried to write a song? Btw im a huge TDE fan, would be a dream to write with them! x

  3. July 27, 2017 / 04:05

    I sooo appreciate reading about your process! I always found it amazing how a song can take you places emotionally that most things can’t. And i love the song title. It’s intriguing

    • Ayak
      July 28, 2017 / 10:19

      Thank you. Music/melody is everything! Imagine ‘Despacito’ has been #1 in the UK forever & no one knows what the hell they’re saying. lol

  4. July 27, 2017 / 18:14

    I personally see nothing wrong with the title. Sex for breakfast sounds like a a morning meal better than Wheaties!

    • Ayak
      July 28, 2017 / 10:21


  5. July 27, 2017 / 22:02

    I don’t think there is an issue with the song title, but I DO wonder if its because a woman vs man song like you said…My cousin is an engineer and I really thought it was an “easy job”, but it is really work.

    • Ayak
      July 28, 2017 / 10:23

      Bless your cousins life! I swear that there might be the hardest job throughout the whole song creation process. Especially if he works with new people all the time! Tell him I appreciate him! Thanks for commenting x

  6. July 27, 2017 / 23:19

    I def think that songs are a very powerful tool and can evoke various emotions. I don’t think people understand how powerful music. Good luck as you continue to pursue your music career. I didn’t read your previous post but the title doesn’t sound shocking, it wouldn’t be the first title I’ve heard like that

    • Ayak
      July 28, 2017 / 10:27

      100% I tried to explain the emotional aspect, but It’s vibrational. I feel physically uncomfortable when I hear metal or super violent rap music but I appreciate their expression. Thanks for commenting x

  7. Aija
    July 29, 2017 / 02:48

    The creative process is unique to every artist. It didn’t offend me, it’s your expression of your gift. Not everyone gets that

  8. July 29, 2017 / 19:08

    Oh I love this! As artists we are very sensitive about our work. So I get where your coming from with that

    Music is a beautiful way of self expression and connecting with people on different levels. And as a writer being able to do that is beautiful! Your story made me feel so excited for you.

  9. July 31, 2017 / 14:37

    Very well written. It is great to show us how a song actually develops and is put out to the world. I consider myself a song writer lol, but never on ypur level.

    • Ayak
      July 31, 2017 / 14:57

      Hi Ebony,
      Thank you for commenting. I could totally give you some pointers of you’d like. Just drop me an email info@heartunderconstruction.
      A x

  10. August 4, 2017 / 16:25

    Thank you for sharing the song writing process! Music is so spiritual and merciful to the writer and the listener of the fabulous words!

    • Ayak
      August 4, 2017 / 21:29

      Man you captured it perfectly. Merciful. How poetic, thank you x

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